Is The Grass Always Greener? It Depends On What Side You Really Want To Be On…

13 11 2012

This will be my first entry here on the blog. I guess I should introduce myself. My name is Renee, and so far all of the entries you have been reading have been written by my husband. This blog was his idea, where he wanted to help people by answering questions they may have about the Navy lifestyle in the perspective of husband and wife, military and civilian, etc…

I titled this entry “Is The Grass Always Greener” because not only am I a civilian married to an Active Duty Sailor, but I was once myself a Sailor. I guess you can say that I have an understanding of both sides of the proverbial “fence”. I viewed military relationships quite differently when I was enlisted. Now that I’m out, I’m seeing things in a whole different light. I personally consider it a double edged sword. I get frustrated from the wife standpoint, but then I realize I can’t be too upset because I can honestly say that I know where my husband is coming from since I’ve been there/done that”.

When I was enlisted, I always said “I can’t wait until I’m a civilian again”. I’m pretty sure most Sailors have uttered those words at one point in time. There were many days where I questioned my enlistment and I even had a countdown of when my contract would be finished. But in this present economy, is the grass really greener? While I was in, I was getting a steady paycheck and health care benefits all while serving this country. Now that I’m on the outside, the job opportunities are very difficult to find. It’s not impossible to find a job, but the competition out here in the civilian realm is ridiculous because everyone is competing for anything and everything just to make ends meet.

To be honest, I don’t mind being a civilian again. Things may not be as easy as they once were since we’re no longer bringing in two paychecks to the relationship with me being a stay at home mom, but I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I say enjoy your life and the time spent with your spouse or significant other. If you are enlisted yourself, make sure that you make the most of the time you’re allotted with your family. If you’re a civilian, like me, make sure that you let your spouse or significant other know how much you love and appreciate them every chance you get.




One response

13 11 2012

Great to know a sailor’s wife. We did ocean shipping management in our previous life. If that’s has anything to do with sailing? Commercial, not military though…

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