Has Chivalry Become A Four Letter Word?

16 12 2012

chivalry-chivalry-demotivational-posters-1326464812Recently I had traveled up to Connecticut from Virginia to visit my family while my husband’s ship was out to sea. In the past, I’ve made this long drive with no problems. It was boring and tiresome, but that’s usually how these long road trips tend to be especially alone. This time around I had our 2 month old son, and our almost 2 year old bulldog in tow. That made my roughly 7-8 hour drive into an 11, yes 11 hour ordeal.

I left my house at 8am, and didn’t get to my parent’s house until 7-8pm. Our son usually falls asleep during car rides, so I thought I would have no problems with him, but boy was I wrong. He would not stop crying for anything. There were moments where I felt terrible because I could not pull over to put his binkie (pacifier) back in his mouth or take him out of his car seat to just hold him for a few minutes. I also had to deal with the constant stopping to feed and change him every 2-3 hours, and to also let our dog use the bathroom.

The thing that upset me about the trip was the sheer lack of chivalry from the men along the way. When I would get out at any rest area to bring our son inside to feed and change him, not many people offered to open the door for me. I had my hands full with our son’s car seat and diaper bag. There were grown men who would walk right by, and it’s as if I had to run to catch the closing door with my body. It would have taken maybe 2 extra seconds for them to just hold it open. Don’t just look at me with the baby and walk by, how about using those manly arms and holding the door open? Have people just become soo accustomed to being that self centered? Even when I would walk through a door, baby with me or not, I would hold it open for the person in front or behind me.

There was this one incident on the road that perplexed me. I had pulled off the road to a Dunkin’ Donuts because there were no rest areas for a solid 3 hours on the road. It was raining so I was trying to quickly get our son out of the car and into the Dunkin Donuts. Two men saw that I was struggling to take my huge bag out of the front seat so I could slide it forward to take out our son’s car seat. They came over to offer help and low and behold, our dog Chewy popped his head up out from the hatch back area because he’s a curious dog. That alone was enough for these two grown ass men to walk away and just basically not want to help me anymore. I couldn’t believe that they were afraid of my dog.

Let me describe him to you. He’s an Olde English Bulldogge. They are a mix of an English Bulldog and the American Bulldog. He’s almost 2 years old and only 49 lbs. He’s a very friendly dog who loves people. He wasn’t even barking or anything. He had his tongue hanging out, just watching. He was in the back of the car, and there was no way he could jump over the seats to get out because he wouldn’t be able to fit over the seats. I explained that to them, and they just walked away.

It was another woman who came out in the rain to offer me some help. So you mean to tell me that these two grown men were soo “scared” of my dog that they walked away, and it was this elderly woman who came out to help me? I felt bad for her so I told her that it was ok, that she should go inside to get out of the rain. My bag was really heavy, and I wouldn’t want her to hurt herself trying to lift it.

I don’t know what else to say about people’s behaviors while on my little 11 hour journey. It was just piss poor manners. I guess I’ll just chalk it up to everyone being tired and cranky because we were all on the road.




2 responses

16 12 2012

Many people are so self involved and don’t bother with others. It is sad.

16 12 2012
Sailor Spouse

Sad indeed. I can’t say that I’m surprised, but the level of selfishness was ridiculous.

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